Queer Sex Advice for Straight Girls: Can Monogamous People Date Poly People? | xoJane
On one recent Poly Weekly episode, Minx invited author Kathy Labriola on to discuss something called the Intimacy-Autonomy scale. I’ve found this scale to be much more helpful in assessing how likely a particular relationship style is to work for someone than the typical “Do you get jealous?” questions.
Basically, the idea is that whether you’re poly, monogamous or something in between, at any given time in your life you fall somewhere on this scale between intimacy (needing lots of time with your partner(s), wanting to be physically close, needing affirmation and attention) and autonomy (wanting a lot of freedom, needing time with other friends or dates, feeling smothered by spending too much time with a loved one).
So the question of whether a poly-monogamous relationship will work has a lot to do with where the respective partners fall on the Intimacy-Autonomy scale.
Accurate article is accurate (especially the picture of the bed and laptop)!
