I can’t stress this enough. I lost a number of followers the other day for posting an angry and snarky response to someone on the polysexuality tags who was acting very holier-than-thou about knowing the “right” definitions of pan bi and poly. He said bi was “attraction to cis men and women only”…
i may be in pain but at least i’m a total babe
(via shorm)
Sitting here on the subway, staring at this question, I’m not sure if I have a better answer now than the one I gave a couple of years ago.
What’s marriage about? Commitment. That was my answer then and that’s what it still comes back down to I think. Marriage is a sign…
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I wish all parents did this!
Ladies and Gentlemen: rape culture.
wow this is so dreamy!
Dress has nothing to do with the over-sexualization of women; in fact it could be said that the over-sexualization of women leads people to interpret dress as sextual. My thigh is just a thigh until you see it as otherwise. So maybe I am not the one sexualizing women with my dress, rather it is you with your eyes and mind.
okay so I googled “pro-gay marriage ads” and was about 0% surprised that the only thing that came up was a bunch of pictures of Nice White People.
the thing that Ally America doesn’t seem to understand is that all of these arguments for gay marriage that hinge on “We’re Just Like You After All” are a restricted privilege for cis, white, middle-to-upper class, monogamous gay couples - hell, they might as well be straight if not for that little glitch, right? You don’t “see” sexuality, right? We’re all “born equal”, right? What Ally America doesn’t seem to understand is that there are queer people out there who are People of Colour and trans* and immigrants and disabled and any other identity that doesn’t look pretty in a Gap Ad. What Ally America isn’t quite grasping is that the institution of marriage is one that is deeply rooted in white, colonial, classist, heterosexist structures that dictate hegemonic values and practices of love and that it is one that is implemented by the same government who routinely denies queer people housing, refuses queer people citizenship, enables companies to fire queer people based on grounds of identity, refuses incarcerated trans* people hormones and allows the murderers of queer people to walk free.
What you all need to realize, Allies, is that the argument “We’re Just Like You After All” isn’t one of inclusion - it’s one of exclusion and isolation. By portraying queer couples as slightly deviated vessels that are still capable of mirroring white, colonial. capitalist, hetero- and cissexist relationship ideals, you are not making the world A Safer Place for queer people. Instead, you’re painting another target on the back of those queer people who DON’T fit these ideals. You’re isolating them now not only for being a person of colour, or disabled, or trans* but also for not being the Right Kind of Queer. You’re not liberating those bright-eyed, smiling gay guys and lesbians that are Proud to Marry. You’re assimilating them into your ranks and erasing part of their identity
The fact of the matter is that “Equal Marriage” advocacy isn’t about promoting equality - it’s about creating division.
If being part of the “movement” means forgetting all of the work and sacrifice and fear and love and community I’ve put into an attempt to make it safe for me NOT to be straight and cis…If being part of the “movement” means prioritizing the perceived struggles of highly privileged mainstream sexless Glee Gays over advocating for the safety of my friends who have been smashed over the head with bottles… If being part of the “movement” means worshiping these same hegemonic identities that fuck me over every day bottled up in a slightly different package…
Feel extremely free to count me the fuck out
It’s OK with Women